Lord, as I enter the arena, whether it be the courtroom or conference table, let me maintain my patience and dignity. Let “grace under pressure…” be my mantra.
Remind me to distance myself from my cases; remind me that I’m not getting a divorce.
Also, remind me that all life has challenges and opportunities. Don’t hide from the challenges; instead, find the opportunities.
Help me to remember that my principal opponent is my own mind rather than an external adversary.
Remind me that conflict makes me better, just like friction polishes a precious gem.
Also, please empower me to trust myself and remember that nearly all outcomes are outside of my control. All I can control are my thoughts, attitudes and perspectives.
Please assist me not to take incivility personally, and to remember that when others threaten, insult or disrespect me, it is because of their own fear or insecurity.
Help me to understand that the dragons that I face today are larger than the ones from yesterday because my capacity to vanquish them is greater as well.
Please don’t allow me to torment myself with fear of things that are more easily endured than worried about.
Also, help me to remember my role as an advocate: It is not to obtain a victory (whatever that means). Rather, it’s to help the judge better understand the facts and the issues. If I do that, I have succeeded. Rulings are outside of my control.
Please remind me to forgive myself when I fall short. Also, help me to remember that I, like all humanity, am imperfect.
Please don't let me forget that time passes quickly, and that tough times won’t last. Please help me savor this day with all of its turbulence and trials.
—Steven N. Peskind
I'm dealing with some lawyers that my most civil of co-counsel calls the coyotes. I need to remember that their actions are based on their own insecurity. Sometimes I kept a post it note in front of me in court that said "Respond. Don't react." Always enjoy your newsletters Steve, even as I coast into retirement. j.
That's really beautiful!