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Keith Turner's avatar

great article!

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Todd's avatar

Humanity needs more honest divorce attorneys! There is so much wisdom in this post that will help everyone involved in a divorce case and reduce the trauma caused to families by money cententered attorneys behaving badly with little to no accountability by their peers. As a pro se litigant who spent over $70K on attorney fees before representing myself the last 18 months of a 3.5 year case without custody issues, I wish this was required reading by all divorce attorneys in the state of Utah. Based on my own non-attorney experience most Judges are aware of the top 5% of highly dishonest and unethical attorneys. All of the same Art of War and Scorchered Earth tactics are employed case after case. I was diligent in committing myself to the work, not the results. I was also diligent in telling the truth for the sake of honoring my own integrity. After a three day trial I wasn't impeached on a single issue after a 28 year marriage. I strongly believe the Judge was very familiar with complete lack of ethics from the attorneys involved on the other side. The Judge was also completely aware my ex was not telling the truth on a number of issues and facts that I impeached her on. Attorneys and their clients being compared to dogs and their owners can't be understated, they simply reflect the same values and character in most cases. After the three day trial the Judge took my position on all issues. Know one is above the law of the harvest which is at work in everyone lives and profession. The rock of truth is much stronger than the sands of deception. In the words of Robert Frost, "Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference". It's easy to wing it, it's easy to show up unprepared, it's easy not to call people back, easy to lie to the Commissioners , Judges and clients, it's easy to make money centered decisions, its easy to cause problems to delay. It's the road less traveled to be diligent to the actual work at hand, exercise integrity, honesty and ethics. There needs to be more attorneys hold each other accountable for rule violations, ethics violations and all other bad behavior of significance of the wild wild west family law in Utah......humbly "The Successful Pro Se Litigant" with a high school education who took on the nasties rabid anti social Pitbull's of Utah. Unfortunately for them they encounter a Lion. Thanks Mr. Peskind I couldn't have done it without your books and blog. I mean that! Thank You!

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